July
Awareness Page
Added Article Link: Adult Abuse in the Church: What You Need to Know
Safe Church Page
Added Video Link: The Pedophile in the Pulpit: How a Respected Pastor Abused Hundreds of Children for 40 Years
June
Features Page
Added Article Link: Loyalty is not a Christian virtue by Rebecca Davis
Healing Page
Added Article Link: Thoughts from a Survivor of Hell by Joel Horst
May 2020
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - Pastors Who Accept Physical and Emotional Abuse as Grounds for Divorce
Safe Church Page
Added Link to book: When Narcissism Comes to Church by Chuck DeGroat
Statistics Page
Added Link: Baptist Accountability Database: A crowd-sourced database for Baptist predators and their enablers.
Prevention Resources Page
Added Link: Live Like It Matters: Giant Church Incorporated
Healing Page
Added Link to Book: Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us Out of Anxiety, Stress and Survival Mode--And into a Life of Connection and Joy by Aundi Kolber
Features Page
Added Article Link: Generating Fear: Words Become Weapons by Carol A Lambert, MSW
February 2020
Healing Page
Added Article Link: How Do You "Got This" When You Can't
Added Article Link: The Not so Simple Act of Forgiving and Forgetting
Added e-course Link: Caring for Yourself after Sexual Violence - Free e-learning with unlimited access by Dr. Jessica Taylor
Added Article Link: How to Accept the Apology You Never Received
Added Article Link: Why Do Trauma Survivors Develop Depression? - Psychology Today - Arash Emamzadeh
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added link to Web site: Flying Free (Natalie Hoffman)
Added Book Link: Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse
Added Link: Does the Bible Say Women Should Suffer Abuse and Violence by Justin Holcomb
Added Book Link: The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships by Gretchen Baskerville
Is Restoration Possible? Page
Added Article Link: Church Discipline and the Psychopath by Dave Mallinak
Features Page
Added Article Link: Abuse Hidden in Plain Sight
Added Video Link: Reclaim Your Life Post-Abuse with Bob and Polly Hamp and Natalie Hoffman
Added Article Link: Gender, Violence, and Justice: Collected Essays on Violence against Women by Pamela Cooper-White (Cascade/Wipf & Stock, 2019).
Chapter 7 - Sexual Exploitation and Other Boundary Violations in Pastoral Ministries
Added Article Link: Speaking Out for the Voiceless
Added Article Link: When We Talk About Sexual Abuse by Maureen Farrell Garcia
Safe Church Page
Added Book Link: The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships by Gretchen Baskerville
Added PDF Link: A Guidebook for Clergy on Sexual Assault, Trauma & Spiritual Healing by Texas Association Against Sexual Assault
Prevention Resources Page
Added Website Link - ChurchTrauma.org
Added Article Link - Breaking the Cycle of Spiritual Abuse by Timothy Isaiah Cho
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Article Link - Intuition is Parents' Greatest Tool to Fight Child Sexual Abuse -- and Many Won't Use It by Amy Wright Glenn
Awareness Page
Added Podcast Link - Spiritually Abusive Leaders in the Church (Podcast) The Roys Report Podcast
Statistics Page
Added Article Link - Crouching at Every Door
I Need Help Now Page
Added Article Link - How to Recognize the Signs of Trauma Bonding - Psych Central - By Nancy Carbone for YourTango.com
January 2020
Features Page
Added Article Link: Fawning: The Fourth Trauma Response We Don't Talk About by Juliette Virzi
Is Pastoral Restoration Possible? Page
Added Article Link: How the Church Should Respond to Abusers by Diane Langberg
Safe Church Page
Added Book: A Child Safeguarding Policy Plan by Basyle Tchividjian & Shirin M. Berkovits
Added Link: Another SBC/ERLC Dopey Move: Their Attorney Appears to be Contacting Victims Who Have Reached Out for Help by dee
November 2019
Features Page
Added Article Link: Boundaries, Inattention and Negotiations by wademullen
Added Article Link: How Christians Defend Their Favorite Abusers on Social Media by Flying Free
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Article Link: Message to a Baptist Church: You Preached Death to the Hearts of One Hundred Women Today
Safe Church Page
Added Article Link: This is How We Let Abuse Thrive: Wade Mullen uncovers the strategies that allow abuse to happen in the church.
by D.L. Mayfield
Added Book Link: The #MeToo Reckoning by Ruth Everhart
Prevention Resources Page
Added Video Link: How to Spot Spiritual Abuse by Wade Mullen
Is Pastoral Restoration Possible? Page
Added Article Link: Some Thoughts on "When Restoration Hurts" by Philip Monroe
Menu Bar -- Added quick link to Domestic Violence Page
October 2019
Prevention Resources Page
Added link to "What About Church Covenants/Contracts?" : Silence of the Sheep
Added link: Can you "Narcissist Proof" a System? by Chuck DeGroat
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Sermon Link: Hope in Dry Ground by Neil Schori
September 2019
Prevention Resources Page
Added Article Link under Church Covenants/Contracts: When is a Church Member 'Fair Game'?
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link: Confusion to Clarity: Support, Healing and Resources for Women in Covertly Abusive Relationships
Added Link: Unraveling Spiritual Abuse and Lies Abused Christian Women Struggle With
Features Page
Added Link: Child Sex Abuse Survivor Nabbed His Tormentor, Became FBI Agent by Susan Edelman and Kathianne Boniello
Congregation Page
Added Link: Empathy: 5 Tips for Taking the Plunge by Mending the Soul
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Implicit Messages & Spiritual Injuries in Faith Communities by Lauren Thien & Rev. Carrie Nettles netgrace.org
Healing Page
Added link: It is Not an Affair: It is Abuse (by David K. Pooler) - Baptist Women in Ministry
August 2019
Response & Investigation Procedures Page
Added Link: Letter to Congregation from Bethlehem Baptist Church upon Abuse Report/Investigation: Statement of Incident of Sexual Misconduct, FAQ, GRACE Training
Added Link: What I've Observed When Institutions Try to Apologize and How They Can Do Better by Wade Mullen
Statistics Page & Awareness Page
Removed statistics and link to Frequency of Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Pastors: A Preliminary Study (The instrument used in the study has been called into question) julieroys.com/study-claiming-31-of-pastors-have-clinical-narcissism-is-debunked-by-expert-researchers/
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link: This is How Pastors Can Help Bring Healing to Sexual Abuse Survivors by Jessica Mouser with Rachel Denhollander
Healing Page
Added Link: The Ticking Time Bomb of Unprocessed Trauma by G. Donald Cribbs
Added Link: Sex with a Pastor is NEVER an Affair 2015 SNAP Conference (Video link)
Added Link (Trauma Links): 100 Reasons It's Important to Speak Up
Added Link: The One Thing That Defines Spiritual Abuse -- with Connie Baker
Features Page
Added Article: Three Hundred and Sixty-Five Days Later (Pooky and The Geek)
Added Article: Sexual abuse survivor warns churches: Failing to preach repentance, sin 'dangerous' to victims By Leah MarieAnn Klett, Christian Post Reporter
Added Article: Clergy Sex Abuse: The damage done when faith is weaponized by Christa Brown
Added Article: Suicide as Emotional Abuse: When Threats of Suicide are Used to Control by Jenn Rockefeller
Added Article: For Husbands of Sexual Abuse Survivors: Insights from Patrick DeMuth
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link: Soul Stealing: Power Relations in Pastoral Sexual Abuse by Rev Pamela Cooper White
Added Link: 11 Signs You're the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse by Shahida Arabi, M.A.
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Tells of Sexual Abusers by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article Link: Churches conducting more background checks, but sex offenders still slipping through cracks Fox News
Added Book Link: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis by Mary E. DeMuth
Added Book Link: On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church by Deepak Reju
Added Book Link: Unholy Charade: Unmasking Domestic Abuser in the Church by Jeff Crippen & Rebecca Davis
Added Book Link: Myths We Believe, Predators We Trust: 37 Things You Don't Want to Know About Abuse in Church (But You Really Should)
by Sarah McDugal & Daron Pratt
Congregation Page
Added Article: The Abusers We Have Not Seen by Deborah Brunt - Key Truths
July 2019
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Bystanders Protecting Children from Boundary Violations and Sexual Abuse Training
Healing Page
Added Link: Free Course: Caring for Yourself after Sexual Violence
Added more music titles and a couple of videos
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: Characteristics of Child Sexual Predators by Boz Tchividjian
Prevention Resources Page
Added Link: When Churches Don't Believe Victims, They Commit Abuse by Amanda Yang
Features Page
Added Article Link: 5 Types of Pastors that Bungle Abuse in the Church by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Is a Written Procedure and Training the Solution to Domestic Abuse Hiding in the Church? (Read all of Jeff Crippen's post re: Domestic Violence in the Church.)
June 2019
I Need Help Now Page
Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome: 6 Signs to Look For by Kim Saaed
Healing Page
Added Link: When Forgiveness is the Last Thing You Want to Do
Added Link: How the Brain Changes in a Relationship with a Narcissist with Dr. Rhonda Freeman (podcast or video) by One Broken Mom Amee' Quiriconi
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added link: Will He Change? by Confusion to Clarity
Added Link: God's Protection of Women When Abuse is Worse than Divorce
Safe Church Page
Added link: Becoming a Church That Cares Well for the Abused
**While NotInOurChurch supports this curriculum and its contributors, we want to express our reservation and concern about the SBC and its handling
of decades of clergy abuse and relationships with clergy abuse victims and advocates. Time will tell whether the SBC will truly address abuse and the current denomination system that fosters abuse and protects clergy that commit sexual abuse against children and adults.**
Added Link: Leaders, Talk About Power to Protect the Vulnerable by Chris Davis
Prevention Resources Page
Added Section - Spiritual Abuse Resources
Added Link: 10 Ways to Spot Spiritual Abuse by Mary DeMuth
Features Page
Added Article: Understanding Sexual Abuse: An Interview with Cyndie Randall, MA, LLPC by Kristy Burmeister
Added Article: What Christians Shouldn't Say in Response to an Abuse Story by Dr. Duncan Forbes
Added Article: I Do Not Believe The Southern Baptist Claim that They are Changing and Dealing With Abuse by Jeff Crippen
Added Article: Breaking Faith or Bearing Fruit by Diane Langberg
Awareness Page
Added Link: How Narcissists Really Think by Joe Navarro, M.A.
May 2019
Healing Page
Added Link: Psalm 139 - Playing with Poetry
Added Link: When Wolves Wear Shepherd's Clothing: Helping Women Survive Clergy Sexual Abuse by Diana R. Garland
Added Link: 3 Strategies to Turn Your Shame Story Into Your Healing - Jolene Underwood - Guest: Lisa Murray
Added Link: Survivors and the Suffering of Jesus by Boz Tchividjian
Added Link: 10 Toxic Stages of Performance Based Christianity by Mark DeJesus
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: MOSAC - Mothers of Sexual Abused Children
Response and Investigation Procedure Page
Added Resource Link: Restoring the Church - Need Wise Counsel for Navigating Conflict?
Features Page
Added Article Link: Willow's Groundswell for Apology by Scot McKnight
Added Article Link: Transitioning From Bad Leadership to Good - Lessons from Hezekiah
Added Article Link: Submitting to Church Leaders Isn't as Biblical as You Think by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article from Twitter: The Abusers Web of Deception by Wade Mullen
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link: Why Trauma Survivors Can't 'Just Let it Go' by Vicki Peterson
Congregation Page
Added Link: Evangelical Churches Can Become 'Seedbeds for Rape Culture', Seminary Professor Says by Samuel Smith, The Christian Post
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link: Nine Ways to Prove You're Not Narcissistic by Steve Wickham
April 2019
Healing Page
Added Article Link: Should I Tell People I Was Abused By a Narcissist? by Fairy Tail Shadows
Added Article Link: How to Hang with God When You Don't Want Church Anymore by Mike Phillips
Added Link to Site: Victor Not Victim: Survivor of Sexual Abuse, Freed from Victim, Saved by Grace
Added Video & Article Link: The Church's Sexual Abuse Crisis: Our Open Letter to Women in the Church (By Missio Alliance)
Awareness Page
Added Link: Narcissists Use Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement To Get You Addicted To Them: Why Abuse Survivors Stay by Shahida Arabi
Features Page
Added Article Link: 55 Common Abusive Remarks by Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC
Added Article Link: 3 Ways We Must Reimagine Our Ecclesiology in a Post-Willow Creek World by David Fitch
Added Article Link: Survivors Support Bill to Criminalize Adult Sexual Abuse by Clergy by Bob Allen
Added Article Link: Boundaries, Inattention, and Negotiations by Wade Mullen
Added Article Link: Dual Relationships When Clergy Counsel Congregants by Jessica A. Justice, MSW, and Diana Garland, LCSW, PhD
Added Article Link: Why Do Churches Put Up with Narcissist Leaders? by John Koessler
Added Article Link: Playing the Victim -- Always Remember This Tactic by Jeff Crippen
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: Why Sexual Abuse Goes Unnoticed by Jimmy Hinton
Response and Investigation Procedure Page
Added Link: Why Is It Inappropriate (and Dangerous) to Alert an Alleged Offender Before Calling CPS/or the Police? by Brad Hambrick
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Preventing and Responding to Clergy Perpetrated Sexual Abuse: A Guide to Best Practices by David K. Pooler, Ph.D., LCSW, Diana R. Garland School of Social Work / Baylor University
Added Link: Strategies for Preventing Clergy Sexual Abuse by Diana R. Garland School of Social Work / Baylor University
Added Link: Why Chaperoning Abusers in Church is Unwise by Jimmy Hinton
March 2019
Congregation Page
Added Article: Be Wary of Churches Breaking the Silence by Deborah Brunt
Added Article: Why We Must Emphasize a Pastor's Character Over His Skill by Tim Challies (ChurchLeaders.com)
Added Article: How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths & Psychopaths: A Guide for Therapists, Law Enforcement & Loved Ones by Shahida Arabi
Added Article: 6 Reasons Why Sexual Predators Target Churches by Tim Challies (ChurchLeaders.com)
Added Article: Spiritual Abuse: When It is Time to Leave @ RickThomas.net
Added Article: 5 Things the Church Does that Enable Abuse by Dave Hughes
Healing Page
Added Article in Websites for Clergy/Pastoral and Other Abuse Survivors: Shunning in the Church by Deborah Brunt
Added Website Link: Healing from Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD Lilly Hope Lucario
Added Article Link: 5 Signs of Narcissistic Therapists (The Ultimate Covert Wolves in Sheep's Clothing) by Shahida Arabi
Added Article Link: Trauma Bonds Explain the Connection with a Narcissist by Fairy Tail Shadows
Added Article Link: Sin or Abuse? Freewill or Brainwashing? Consent or Coercion?
Added Link: Complex Trauma Healing Infographics
Awareness Page
Added Article: 9 Secret Signs of Narcissism You Can't Miss Once You Notice Them by Kim Saeed
Added Article: How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story by Darius Cikanavicius
Added Article: Narcissist or Psychopath: How Can You Tell? by Joe Navarro, M.A.
Added Article in Narcissists and Empaths: "Empaths: How to Shield Yourself Against Narcissists" by Kim Saeed
Features Page
Added Article Link: A Question Of Character: Getting Unstuck Is Not the Church's Biggest Problem by Karl Vaters
Added Article Link: How to Support a Friend or Loved One Who Has Been Sexually Abused by Vanessa Marin
Added Article Link: Why Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse Don't Disclose by Beverly Engel, L.M.F.T
Added Article Link: Abusers look for opportunities more than vulnerabilities by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article Link: Pastors: stop putting women down with your cheap laugh lines by Tim Fall
Added Article Link: Prophetic Survivors: Ruthy Nordgren by Abby Perry
Added Article Link: Clergy Abusers: By Their Entitlement You Shall Know Them by Rachel Cohen
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link: Free Recovery Toolkit: Taking Your Life Back After A Relationship with a Narcissist by Fairy Tale Shadows
Added Article Link: Why Men Abuse Women and Makes Them Stop
Added Resource Link: We Will Speak Out - Faith Communities Uniting to End Sexual Violence
Added Article Link: Grooming for Domestic Abuse: From Romance to Isolation Psychology Today
Added Article/Resource Link: Counseling Victims of Domestic Abuse - by Diane Langberg Ph.D. -- A Cry For Justice
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: Pedophile Grooming - In Depth by Open Minds Foundation
Added Book Link: On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse by Deepak Reju
Home Page
Added link: Sample Emails to Send to Your Pastor About Sexual Abuse Awareness Month
Added Page & Link: April -- Sexual Abuse Awareness Month (30 links to various articles addressing abuse in the church)
Safe Church Page
Added Article Link - Abusers look for opportunities more than vulnerabilities by Jimmy Hinton
Added Sample Email Page
Added April - Sexual Abuse Awareness Month Page
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Article Link: It's Not Easy to Love a Sexual Abuse Survivor by Boriana Todorova
I Need Help Now Page
Added Resource Link: Workplace Bullying Institute -- Problem Impact Solutions Resources
Caring for the Victim Page
Added Video Link: Sexual Assault: A Trauma Informed Approach to Law Enforcement First Response - YouTube
Abuse Page
Added Article Link: Don't Call It an Affair: The Truth About Clergy Abuse by Rachel Cohen
Added Article Link: Clergy Abuse of Women: A Diminished Capacity to Consent by Rachel Cohen
February 2019
Added Congregation Page & Links
Added Safe Church Page & Links
Mission Page
Added Prayer
Awareness Page
Added Article: How Narcissists Conduct Psychological Warfare: The narcissist's most lethal weapon--and why it creates chemistry with an empath by Erin Leonard
Added Article: Can Malignant Narcissists and Psychopaths Change? Why You Shouldn't Count On It by Shahida Arabi
Response and Investigation Procedures Page
Added Article: Preying in Church: Confronting Sexual Offenders Who Come to Church by Jay Dennis
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Article: Startling Statistics: Child Sexual Abuse and What the Church Can Begin Doing About It by Boz Tchividjian
Features Page
Added Article: What is "Becoming a Church That Cares Well for Abuse" Curriculum by Brad Hambrick
Added Article: An Untried Path to Interrupt Clergy Sex Abuse by Michael Hanegan
Added Article: Cubicles of Charm and Crucibles of Condemnation by Wade Mullen
Added Article: The Problem with "Evil" in Describing Southern Baptist Abuse Crises
Healing Page
Added Article: 3 Things to Remember When Reporting Sexual Abuse by Sheila Wray Gregoire
January 2019
Features Page
Added Article: A Letter to Church Leaders From the spouse of a victim of a covert narcissist abuser pastor
Added Article: I'm Sorry for How the Church Has Sidelined Women by Marc Alan Schelske
Added Article: Why Churches Disbelieve the Victim and Believe the Pastoral Abuser by Mike
Added Article: Together for the Go$pel by Benjamin Sledge
Added Article: Abuse and Christianity: Why the "Christian" Abuser is the Worst Kind by Jeff Crippen
Healing Page
Added Book: Let Us Prey: The Plague of Narcissist Pastors and What We Can Do About It by R. Glenn Ball & Darrell Puls
Added Article Link: What Kind of Woman Does an Abusive Man Go For?
Added Article Link: After Clergy Abuse, Forgiveness Will Just Have to Wait by Rachel Cohen
Added Article Link: The Five Lies that Victims Believe by Mike
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Article Link: What Parents Need to Know About Sexual Grooming by Elizabeth Jeglic Ph.D.
Caring for the Victim Page
Added Article Link: How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths & Psychopaths
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - What I Wish My Pastor Had Known When I Needed Help by Julie Owens
Added Link - Fairy Tale Shadows
December 2018
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link - PTSD and the Church : When Religion is a Trigger by Kristy Burmeister
Added Link - How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths (A Guide for Therapists, Law Enforcement and Loved Ones)
Added Link - PorchSwing Ministries -- Creating Safe Space in your Church or Organization
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link - Lauren's Kids
Features Page
Added Article Link -- A Common and Surprising Ally of Abusers -- Christians Who Grew Up in Church by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link -- 5 Ways You Might Be Enabling Abusers in the Church by Kristy Burmeister
Added Article Link -- When We Neglect the Millstone, We Cast Stones at the Survivor by Mary DeMuth
Added Article Link -- Winter inside the Church and the hope of Christmas by Boz Tchividjian
Added Article Link -- 5 Signs of Spiritual Abuse by Timothy Isaiah Cho
Added Article Link -- Why Do People Believe Narcissists Rather than Their Victims by Shahida Arabi
Added Article Link -- Chicagoland's Pastor Scandals of Power by Scot McKnight
Added Article Link -- Christians: How Not to be Flying Monkeys for Predators by Split Frame/Blog
Healing Page
Added Link - Prayer : A Challenge for Survivors by Fr. Lewis S. Fiorelli, OSFS, Our Lady of Good Counsel Parish, Vienna, VA
Added Link - I'm Going to Repeat This Until it Sinks In by Davina Lytle
Added Link in Forgiveness - The Abuser's Evil Demand for Forgiveness by Jeff Crippen
Prevention Page
Added Article Link: What We Long for the Church to Do about Sexual Violence: Four practical steps churches can take to eliminate sexual violence. by Sally Schwer Canning and Tammy Schultz
Added Video Link: Power, Deception and the Church by Diane Langberg
Added Podcast Link: Boz Tchividjian: A Godly Response to Abuse in the Church Environment
Awareness Page
Added Link -- How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story by Darius Cikanavicius (Psych Central)
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - Malesurvivors.org -- Male survivors of Sexual Abuse
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Sermon Link -- No Abuser is Hidden from His Sight by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link -- A High View of Marriage Includes Divorce by Rebecca VanDoodewaard (ChurchLeaders.com)
Added Link -- Don Hennessy Digest (13-part series on Don's work in area of domestic violence) A Cry for Justice site
Added Link -- Domestic Violence Safety Plan Brochure by Ladywithatruck
November 2018
Features Page
Added Article Link - What Not to Say to Someone Who's Been Hurt by the Church by Jonathan Hollingsworth
Added Article Link - It's Time: How the Church messed up--and can redeem--the #MeToo movement Relevant Magazine
Added Article Link - How to Confront a Toxic Pastor in a Toxic Church by F. Remy Diederich
Added Article Link - "Speak the Truth in Love" has come to mean "Just Keep Quiet About It" by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link - Safety Planning for the Holidays by The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Added Article Link - #ChurchToo: How can we prevent the abuse of women by the clergy? by Lea Karen Kivi
Added Article Link - Abusers become more brazen when they are suspected of abuse by Jimmy Hinton
Healing Page
Added Link - Neuroscience reveals the shocking impact narcissistic abuse has on the brain by Lachlin Brown
Added Section with Links - Resources for Self Care after Trauma
Added Link - Safe Sheep Facebook Page
Added Link - Help! I'm Panicking! Grounding Exercises for Strong Emotions
Added Article Link - Why Do I Attract Abusers by Megan Cox. (Added just above section on Forgiveness)
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - 1in6.org - Sexual Abuse & Sexual Assault for Boys and Men - Confidential Support for Men
Added Link - Help! I'm Panicking! Grounding Exercises for Strong Emotions
Added Link - Grace vs Abuse: 7 Questions to Define the Line
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - Domestic Abuse, Sexual Violence and Substance Use
Added Link - Browse the Web Privately - DIY Cybersecurity for Domestic Violence
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link - Speak Your Light - End Child Sexual Abuse
Awareness Page
Added Link in Resources - The Imbalance and Exploitation of Power - A Recipe for Abuse by Boz Tchividjian
Added Link in Resources - Understanding Sex Abuse: An Interview with Cyndie Randall MA, LLPC by Kristy Bermeister
Added Link in Abuse of Power Section - Sexual Abuse in Christian Organizations by Diane Langberg, PhD
October 2018
Harassment Policies and Reporting Page
Added Link - Registered Sex Offenders: A Church Sample Membership and Attendance Policy by Brad Hambrick
Added Link - Registered Sex Offenders: Failing to Inform is a Coverup by Jimmy Hinton
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - 100 Sermons - Sojourners
Added Article Link - How Pastors Perceive Domestic Violence Differently by Bob Smietana/Christianity Today
Features Page
Added Article Link - Growing Trust by Heidi De Jonge
Added Article Link - What is Your Role as a Christian in the #METOO Movement? by Trillia Newbell
Added Article Link - Be Wise About Repentant Predators by Mary DeMuth
Added Article Link - How Abuse Affects the Soul, Identity and Dignity by Megan Cox
Healing Page
Added Book - Broken Trust by F. Remy Diederich
Added Link - The Psychology of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder TED Ed
Added Book - The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
Added Link in Forgiveness Area - Some More Thoughts on Wrong Thinking About Forgiveness by Jeff Crippen
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Article - 21 Sentences NOT to Say to a Sexual Abuse Survivor by Mary E. DeMuth
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link - Darkness to Light - Trust Your Gut
Caring for the Victim Page
Added Link - How to Support Someone Who Has Experienced Trauma
September 2018
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - Non-Disparagement Agreements and Truth-Telling in the Church by Scot McKnight
Awareness Page
Added Link in Resources - Understanding Sexual Abuse by a Church Leader or Caregiver
Added Article Link in Resources - There are Many False Sheep and Shepherds and We Need to Say So by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link in Resources - The Sin of Silence - The Epidemic Denial About Sexual Abuse in the Evangelical Church by Joshua Pease
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - Quick Guide : What is Domestic Violence
Added Link - Abuse and Relationships Website by Michael Samsel LMHC
Added Link - Dear Church, It's Time to Stop Enabling Abusive Men by Gary Thomas
Education & Training Page
Added Link - Keeping Our Sacred Trust Online Courses Addressing Ethical Boundaries in Ministry
Prevention Page
Added Link - 9 Anti-Abuse Practices Your Church Needs to Adopt by Becky Castle Miller
Added Link - The Shame of Sexual Harassment in the Church - How it Happens - How We Can Heal by Alex Newman
Added Link - The #MeToo Movement Has Educated Pastors. And Left Them With More Questions by Bob Smietana
Prevention Resources Page
Added Website Link - UM Sexual Ethics Website (A Model Denomination Website addressing Sexual Misconduct)
Added Section - What About Church Membership Covenants/Contract?
Added Link - Five Reasons to Say "No" to a Church Covenant by Wade Burleson
Added Link - Five Reasons to Say No to a Church Membership Covenant - Apologetics Index
Added Link - Q. Are Church Covenants and Membership Policies Biblical?
Added Link - The Dirty Little Secret About Church Membership Covenants
Added Link - Church Membership Covenants - Legal Contracts that are NOT Biblical!
Added Link - Further Proof You are Signing a Legal Contract Not a Membership Covenant: Courtesy of the Gospel Coalition
Policies & Reporting Page
Added Link - Here's What You Need to Know About Reporting Abuse by Bob Ditmer (Video by Brad Hambrick)
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link - A Church Addresses Sexual Abuse (A Sunday Service devoted to the Abused)
Healing Page
Added Article Link - An Open Letter to Sexual Assault Survivors by Kristy Burmeister
Added Video Series Link - Hope and Restoration After Abuse by Brad Hambrick & The Summit Church
Added to the list of songs: Resurrection Power by Chris Tomlin; In Over My Head by Jenn Johnson; No Matter What by Matt Maher/
Bart Millard; The Breakup Song by Francesca Battistelli; Confidence by Sanctus Real; Counting Every Blessing by Rend Collective; Broken Things by Matthew West; Known by Tauren Wells
Features Page
Added Article - To Prevent Abuse and Coverups, the Church Needs to Empower Laypeople by Sean Rowe
Added Article - Manipulative Repentance: 8 Red Flag Phrases by Brad Hambrick
Added Article - How Willow Creek Exposed Our Sins by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin
Added Link - The Praxis Gathering
Added Article - Out in the Light: Why Expose the Church's Most Shameful Sins? by Sophia Lee
Added Article - Confronting the Toxic Power in Me by Jamin Groggin and Kyle Strobel
Added Article - How Many Pastors are Addicted to Porn? The Stats are Surprising by Bo Lane
Added Article - What Do Waterless Clouds Look Like by Jeff Crippen
Added Article - Abuse: Would Your Church Cover It Up? Three Questions That Can Help You Anticipate Your Church's Response to Sexual Abuse by Ashley Easter
Added Article - More on #Churchtoo : Q & A with Jimmy Hinton on Sexual Abuse in Churches by Bobby Ross Jr.
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Video - 20.5 % of Your Congregation are Sexual Abuse Survivors by Grace
Added Link - How to Protect Our Special Needs Kids From Sexual Abuse (RiseandShineMovement.org)
August 2018
Awareness Page
Added Link In Additional Resources - How to Spot a Narcissist in 3 Steps
Added Link In "Abusers Should Be Held Accountable" Section - Grace (and the abuse of grace) for narcissists and abusers by Chuck DeGroat
Added Link in Additional Resources - Light For Dark Times by Jeff Crippen
Added Link in Additional Resources - 6 Warning Signs of a Bad Pastor and Spiritual Abuse
Caring for Survivors In Your Church Page
Added Link - Five Mistakes to Avoid When Counseling Abuse Survivors by Diane Langberg
Added Text & Link - The Impact of Sexual Trauma on Survivors' Theological Perception and Spiritual Formation
Added Text & Link - This is How Churches Should Respond to Abuse by Scott Savage
Response and Investigation Resources Page
Added Article Link - Are Abuse Survivors Best Served When Institutions Investigate Themselves by Boz Tchividjian
Added Article Link - Take it from someone who reported abuse in the church: Get outside help by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article Link - Matthew 18, Civil Law, and Limits on Church Discipline by Marty Duren
Added Article Link - Should Churches Handle Sexual Abuse Allegations Internally? by Jen Zamzow
Features Page
Added Article - Rachel Held Evans interviews Boz Tchividjian of G.R.A.C.E.
Added Article - Our "Sin of the Bystander" Enables Sexual Abuse. We Must Change by Kathryn Manis Findley
Added Article - Bill Hybels and the Future of the Church After #ChurchToo by Chuck DeGroat
Added Article - Evangelicals confront sex abuse problems in #metoo era by David Crary
Added Article - Samson and Delilah: Strength After Betrayal by Lea Karen Kivi
Added Article - Three Ways Catholics Can Fight Sexual Abuse in the Church by David Clohessy
Added Scripture Article - Prophecy Against the Shepherds of Israel (Ezekiel 34)
Added Article - Max Lucado: Priests, pastors and pain; three words that shouldn’t share the same sentence.
Added Article - Encourage Your Anger by Paul David Tripp
Added Article - Divisions, Deception and Disease by Diane Langberg
Domestic Violence Resources Page
Added book - Suffering and the Heart of God by Diane Langberg
Added book - Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists and Other Sex Offenders by Anna Salter
Added Article Link - Message to a Church: You Preached Death to the Hearts of One Hundred Women Today
Added Article Link - Faith Communities Must Do Better When Survivors Speak Out by Rev. Amy Gopp
Added Website Link - Light for Dark Times by Pastor Jeff Crippen
Added Sermon Series Link - Domestic Violence and Abuse--The Psychology and Methods of Sin by Pastor Jeff Crippen
Prevention Page
Added Article Link - Dear Church: Hear the Word of the Lord by Diane Langberg
Added Link in introduction area - When It Comes to Abuse, the Church Needs a Paradigm Shift by Annette Oltmans
Added Link in introduction area - Abuse Claims Again the Top Reasons Churches go to Court by Richard R. Hammar, Church Law & Tax
Added Link in introduction area - Covering Up the Evils of the Wicked is Forbidden by the Lord by Jeff Crippen
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - Domestic Violence Hotline
Added Link - Reporting Child Abuse
Added Link - The American Association of Christian Counselors
Added Link - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Addiction Hotline
Child Abuse Resources Page
Added Link - Darkness to Light : End Child Sexual Abuse
Healing Page
Added Link - Interview: Morgan Lee interviews Rachel Dendhollander - My Larry Nassar Testimony Went Viral, But There's More to the Gospel Than Forgiveness
Added Link - ANONYMOUS: From Someone Injured by the Church
July 2018
Awareness Page
In Additional Resources - Dear Church: Stop Trying to Convert Wolves by Jimmy Hinton
Features Page
Added Article - If a child in your life tells you that they are being sexually abused, would you know what to do? by Laura Fogerty
Added Article - 7 Ways Congregations Can Respond to the #MeToo Movement by General Commission on the Status & Role of Women
Added Article - Tamar Listens to Psalm 61: A Reflection on the Impact of Misused Spiritual Authority by Brad Hambrick
Added Article - Church Related Trauma: When Church Can Trigger by Kyle J. Howard
Child Safety Resources Page
Added Link - If a child in your life tells you that they are being sexually abused, would you know what to do? by Laura Fogerty
Added Video - A Great Example of Acting on Instinct at Church (Sarah McDugal video)
Added Video - Here are 5 red flags + 9 intimidation tactics used today by a predator visiting my church.
Added Link - Sarah McDugal Facebook Page
Added Link - Identifying Child Sexual Abuse
Added Link - A Letter From a Parent
Domestic Violence Resources Page
Added Link - How to Develop a Safety Plan for Domestic Violence
Added Book - Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
Added Book - The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evens
Added Video - What Happens When Women Say "I'm Scared" but Nobody Listens by Sarah McDugal
Added Link - National Network to End Domestic Violence
Added Link - Technology Safety
Healing Page
Added book recommendation - Think Differently Live Differently by Bob Hamp
Added book recommendation - When Godly People Do Ungodly Things by Beth Moore
Added link on Forgiveness - Emotions and Forgiveness: Instructions for a Confusing Intersection
Added book recommendation - On the Threshold of Hope by Diane Mandt Langberg, PH.D.
Added YouTube Video - You Say by Lauren Daigle
Added Caring for Survivors In Your Church Page
Awareness Page
Added Article Link: Adult Abuse in the Church: What You Need to Know
Safe Church Page
Added Video Link: The Pedophile in the Pulpit: How a Respected Pastor Abused Hundreds of Children for 40 Years
June
Features Page
Added Article Link: Loyalty is not a Christian virtue by Rebecca Davis
Healing Page
Added Article Link: Thoughts from a Survivor of Hell by Joel Horst
May 2020
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - Pastors Who Accept Physical and Emotional Abuse as Grounds for Divorce
Safe Church Page
Added Link to book: When Narcissism Comes to Church by Chuck DeGroat
Statistics Page
Added Link: Baptist Accountability Database: A crowd-sourced database for Baptist predators and their enablers.
Prevention Resources Page
Added Link: Live Like It Matters: Giant Church Incorporated
Healing Page
Added Link to Book: Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us Out of Anxiety, Stress and Survival Mode--And into a Life of Connection and Joy by Aundi Kolber
Features Page
Added Article Link: Generating Fear: Words Become Weapons by Carol A Lambert, MSW
February 2020
Healing Page
Added Article Link: How Do You "Got This" When You Can't
Added Article Link: The Not so Simple Act of Forgiving and Forgetting
Added e-course Link: Caring for Yourself after Sexual Violence - Free e-learning with unlimited access by Dr. Jessica Taylor
Added Article Link: How to Accept the Apology You Never Received
Added Article Link: Why Do Trauma Survivors Develop Depression? - Psychology Today - Arash Emamzadeh
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added link to Web site: Flying Free (Natalie Hoffman)
Added Book Link: Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse
Added Link: Does the Bible Say Women Should Suffer Abuse and Violence by Justin Holcomb
Added Book Link: The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships by Gretchen Baskerville
Is Restoration Possible? Page
Added Article Link: Church Discipline and the Psychopath by Dave Mallinak
Features Page
Added Article Link: Abuse Hidden in Plain Sight
Added Video Link: Reclaim Your Life Post-Abuse with Bob and Polly Hamp and Natalie Hoffman
Added Article Link: Gender, Violence, and Justice: Collected Essays on Violence against Women by Pamela Cooper-White (Cascade/Wipf & Stock, 2019).
Chapter 7 - Sexual Exploitation and Other Boundary Violations in Pastoral Ministries
Added Article Link: Speaking Out for the Voiceless
Added Article Link: When We Talk About Sexual Abuse by Maureen Farrell Garcia
Safe Church Page
Added Book Link: The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships by Gretchen Baskerville
Added PDF Link: A Guidebook for Clergy on Sexual Assault, Trauma & Spiritual Healing by Texas Association Against Sexual Assault
Prevention Resources Page
Added Website Link - ChurchTrauma.org
Added Article Link - Breaking the Cycle of Spiritual Abuse by Timothy Isaiah Cho
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Article Link - Intuition is Parents' Greatest Tool to Fight Child Sexual Abuse -- and Many Won't Use It by Amy Wright Glenn
Awareness Page
Added Podcast Link - Spiritually Abusive Leaders in the Church (Podcast) The Roys Report Podcast
Statistics Page
Added Article Link - Crouching at Every Door
I Need Help Now Page
Added Article Link - How to Recognize the Signs of Trauma Bonding - Psych Central - By Nancy Carbone for YourTango.com
January 2020
Features Page
Added Article Link: Fawning: The Fourth Trauma Response We Don't Talk About by Juliette Virzi
Is Pastoral Restoration Possible? Page
Added Article Link: How the Church Should Respond to Abusers by Diane Langberg
Safe Church Page
Added Book: A Child Safeguarding Policy Plan by Basyle Tchividjian & Shirin M. Berkovits
Added Link: Another SBC/ERLC Dopey Move: Their Attorney Appears to be Contacting Victims Who Have Reached Out for Help by dee
November 2019
Features Page
Added Article Link: Boundaries, Inattention and Negotiations by wademullen
Added Article Link: How Christians Defend Their Favorite Abusers on Social Media by Flying Free
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Article Link: Message to a Baptist Church: You Preached Death to the Hearts of One Hundred Women Today
Safe Church Page
Added Article Link: This is How We Let Abuse Thrive: Wade Mullen uncovers the strategies that allow abuse to happen in the church.
by D.L. Mayfield
Added Book Link: The #MeToo Reckoning by Ruth Everhart
Prevention Resources Page
Added Video Link: How to Spot Spiritual Abuse by Wade Mullen
Is Pastoral Restoration Possible? Page
Added Article Link: Some Thoughts on "When Restoration Hurts" by Philip Monroe
Menu Bar -- Added quick link to Domestic Violence Page
October 2019
Prevention Resources Page
Added link to "What About Church Covenants/Contracts?" : Silence of the Sheep
Added link: Can you "Narcissist Proof" a System? by Chuck DeGroat
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Sermon Link: Hope in Dry Ground by Neil Schori
September 2019
Prevention Resources Page
Added Article Link under Church Covenants/Contracts: When is a Church Member 'Fair Game'?
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link: Confusion to Clarity: Support, Healing and Resources for Women in Covertly Abusive Relationships
Added Link: Unraveling Spiritual Abuse and Lies Abused Christian Women Struggle With
Features Page
Added Link: Child Sex Abuse Survivor Nabbed His Tormentor, Became FBI Agent by Susan Edelman and Kathianne Boniello
Congregation Page
Added Link: Empathy: 5 Tips for Taking the Plunge by Mending the Soul
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Implicit Messages & Spiritual Injuries in Faith Communities by Lauren Thien & Rev. Carrie Nettles netgrace.org
Healing Page
Added link: It is Not an Affair: It is Abuse (by David K. Pooler) - Baptist Women in Ministry
August 2019
Response & Investigation Procedures Page
Added Link: Letter to Congregation from Bethlehem Baptist Church upon Abuse Report/Investigation: Statement of Incident of Sexual Misconduct, FAQ, GRACE Training
Added Link: What I've Observed When Institutions Try to Apologize and How They Can Do Better by Wade Mullen
Statistics Page & Awareness Page
Removed statistics and link to Frequency of Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Pastors: A Preliminary Study (The instrument used in the study has been called into question) julieroys.com/study-claiming-31-of-pastors-have-clinical-narcissism-is-debunked-by-expert-researchers/
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link: This is How Pastors Can Help Bring Healing to Sexual Abuse Survivors by Jessica Mouser with Rachel Denhollander
Healing Page
Added Link: The Ticking Time Bomb of Unprocessed Trauma by G. Donald Cribbs
Added Link: Sex with a Pastor is NEVER an Affair 2015 SNAP Conference (Video link)
Added Link (Trauma Links): 100 Reasons It's Important to Speak Up
Added Link: The One Thing That Defines Spiritual Abuse -- with Connie Baker
Features Page
Added Article: Three Hundred and Sixty-Five Days Later (Pooky and The Geek)
Added Article: Sexual abuse survivor warns churches: Failing to preach repentance, sin 'dangerous' to victims By Leah MarieAnn Klett, Christian Post Reporter
Added Article: Clergy Sex Abuse: The damage done when faith is weaponized by Christa Brown
Added Article: Suicide as Emotional Abuse: When Threats of Suicide are Used to Control by Jenn Rockefeller
Added Article: For Husbands of Sexual Abuse Survivors: Insights from Patrick DeMuth
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link: Soul Stealing: Power Relations in Pastoral Sexual Abuse by Rev Pamela Cooper White
Added Link: 11 Signs You're the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse by Shahida Arabi, M.A.
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Tells of Sexual Abusers by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article Link: Churches conducting more background checks, but sex offenders still slipping through cracks Fox News
Added Book Link: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis by Mary E. DeMuth
Added Book Link: On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church by Deepak Reju
Added Book Link: Unholy Charade: Unmasking Domestic Abuser in the Church by Jeff Crippen & Rebecca Davis
Added Book Link: Myths We Believe, Predators We Trust: 37 Things You Don't Want to Know About Abuse in Church (But You Really Should)
by Sarah McDugal & Daron Pratt
Congregation Page
Added Article: The Abusers We Have Not Seen by Deborah Brunt - Key Truths
July 2019
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Bystanders Protecting Children from Boundary Violations and Sexual Abuse Training
Healing Page
Added Link: Free Course: Caring for Yourself after Sexual Violence
Added more music titles and a couple of videos
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: Characteristics of Child Sexual Predators by Boz Tchividjian
Prevention Resources Page
Added Link: When Churches Don't Believe Victims, They Commit Abuse by Amanda Yang
Features Page
Added Article Link: 5 Types of Pastors that Bungle Abuse in the Church by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Is a Written Procedure and Training the Solution to Domestic Abuse Hiding in the Church? (Read all of Jeff Crippen's post re: Domestic Violence in the Church.)
June 2019
I Need Help Now Page
Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome: 6 Signs to Look For by Kim Saaed
Healing Page
Added Link: When Forgiveness is the Last Thing You Want to Do
Added Link: How the Brain Changes in a Relationship with a Narcissist with Dr. Rhonda Freeman (podcast or video) by One Broken Mom Amee' Quiriconi
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added link: Will He Change? by Confusion to Clarity
Added Link: God's Protection of Women When Abuse is Worse than Divorce
Safe Church Page
Added link: Becoming a Church That Cares Well for the Abused
**While NotInOurChurch supports this curriculum and its contributors, we want to express our reservation and concern about the SBC and its handling
of decades of clergy abuse and relationships with clergy abuse victims and advocates. Time will tell whether the SBC will truly address abuse and the current denomination system that fosters abuse and protects clergy that commit sexual abuse against children and adults.**
Added Link: Leaders, Talk About Power to Protect the Vulnerable by Chris Davis
Prevention Resources Page
Added Section - Spiritual Abuse Resources
Added Link: 10 Ways to Spot Spiritual Abuse by Mary DeMuth
Features Page
Added Article: Understanding Sexual Abuse: An Interview with Cyndie Randall, MA, LLPC by Kristy Burmeister
Added Article: What Christians Shouldn't Say in Response to an Abuse Story by Dr. Duncan Forbes
Added Article: I Do Not Believe The Southern Baptist Claim that They are Changing and Dealing With Abuse by Jeff Crippen
Added Article: Breaking Faith or Bearing Fruit by Diane Langberg
Awareness Page
Added Link: How Narcissists Really Think by Joe Navarro, M.A.
May 2019
Healing Page
Added Link: Psalm 139 - Playing with Poetry
Added Link: When Wolves Wear Shepherd's Clothing: Helping Women Survive Clergy Sexual Abuse by Diana R. Garland
Added Link: 3 Strategies to Turn Your Shame Story Into Your Healing - Jolene Underwood - Guest: Lisa Murray
Added Link: Survivors and the Suffering of Jesus by Boz Tchividjian
Added Link: 10 Toxic Stages of Performance Based Christianity by Mark DeJesus
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: MOSAC - Mothers of Sexual Abused Children
Response and Investigation Procedure Page
Added Resource Link: Restoring the Church - Need Wise Counsel for Navigating Conflict?
Features Page
Added Article Link: Willow's Groundswell for Apology by Scot McKnight
Added Article Link: Transitioning From Bad Leadership to Good - Lessons from Hezekiah
Added Article Link: Submitting to Church Leaders Isn't as Biblical as You Think by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article from Twitter: The Abusers Web of Deception by Wade Mullen
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link: Why Trauma Survivors Can't 'Just Let it Go' by Vicki Peterson
Congregation Page
Added Link: Evangelical Churches Can Become 'Seedbeds for Rape Culture', Seminary Professor Says by Samuel Smith, The Christian Post
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link: Nine Ways to Prove You're Not Narcissistic by Steve Wickham
April 2019
Healing Page
Added Article Link: Should I Tell People I Was Abused By a Narcissist? by Fairy Tail Shadows
Added Article Link: How to Hang with God When You Don't Want Church Anymore by Mike Phillips
Added Link to Site: Victor Not Victim: Survivor of Sexual Abuse, Freed from Victim, Saved by Grace
Added Video & Article Link: The Church's Sexual Abuse Crisis: Our Open Letter to Women in the Church (By Missio Alliance)
Awareness Page
Added Link: Narcissists Use Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement To Get You Addicted To Them: Why Abuse Survivors Stay by Shahida Arabi
Features Page
Added Article Link: 55 Common Abusive Remarks by Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC
Added Article Link: 3 Ways We Must Reimagine Our Ecclesiology in a Post-Willow Creek World by David Fitch
Added Article Link: Survivors Support Bill to Criminalize Adult Sexual Abuse by Clergy by Bob Allen
Added Article Link: Boundaries, Inattention, and Negotiations by Wade Mullen
Added Article Link: Dual Relationships When Clergy Counsel Congregants by Jessica A. Justice, MSW, and Diana Garland, LCSW, PhD
Added Article Link: Why Do Churches Put Up with Narcissist Leaders? by John Koessler
Added Article Link: Playing the Victim -- Always Remember This Tactic by Jeff Crippen
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: Why Sexual Abuse Goes Unnoticed by Jimmy Hinton
Response and Investigation Procedure Page
Added Link: Why Is It Inappropriate (and Dangerous) to Alert an Alleged Offender Before Calling CPS/or the Police? by Brad Hambrick
Safe Church Page
Added Link: Preventing and Responding to Clergy Perpetrated Sexual Abuse: A Guide to Best Practices by David K. Pooler, Ph.D., LCSW, Diana R. Garland School of Social Work / Baylor University
Added Link: Strategies for Preventing Clergy Sexual Abuse by Diana R. Garland School of Social Work / Baylor University
Added Link: Why Chaperoning Abusers in Church is Unwise by Jimmy Hinton
March 2019
Congregation Page
Added Article: Be Wary of Churches Breaking the Silence by Deborah Brunt
Added Article: Why We Must Emphasize a Pastor's Character Over His Skill by Tim Challies (ChurchLeaders.com)
Added Article: How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths & Psychopaths: A Guide for Therapists, Law Enforcement & Loved Ones by Shahida Arabi
Added Article: 6 Reasons Why Sexual Predators Target Churches by Tim Challies (ChurchLeaders.com)
Added Article: Spiritual Abuse: When It is Time to Leave @ RickThomas.net
Added Article: 5 Things the Church Does that Enable Abuse by Dave Hughes
Healing Page
Added Article in Websites for Clergy/Pastoral and Other Abuse Survivors: Shunning in the Church by Deborah Brunt
Added Website Link: Healing from Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD Lilly Hope Lucario
Added Article Link: 5 Signs of Narcissistic Therapists (The Ultimate Covert Wolves in Sheep's Clothing) by Shahida Arabi
Added Article Link: Trauma Bonds Explain the Connection with a Narcissist by Fairy Tail Shadows
Added Article Link: Sin or Abuse? Freewill or Brainwashing? Consent or Coercion?
Added Link: Complex Trauma Healing Infographics
Awareness Page
Added Article: 9 Secret Signs of Narcissism You Can't Miss Once You Notice Them by Kim Saeed
Added Article: How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story by Darius Cikanavicius
Added Article: Narcissist or Psychopath: How Can You Tell? by Joe Navarro, M.A.
Added Article in Narcissists and Empaths: "Empaths: How to Shield Yourself Against Narcissists" by Kim Saeed
Features Page
Added Article Link: A Question Of Character: Getting Unstuck Is Not the Church's Biggest Problem by Karl Vaters
Added Article Link: How to Support a Friend or Loved One Who Has Been Sexually Abused by Vanessa Marin
Added Article Link: Why Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse Don't Disclose by Beverly Engel, L.M.F.T
Added Article Link: Abusers look for opportunities more than vulnerabilities by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article Link: Pastors: stop putting women down with your cheap laugh lines by Tim Fall
Added Article Link: Prophetic Survivors: Ruthy Nordgren by Abby Perry
Added Article Link: Clergy Abusers: By Their Entitlement You Shall Know Them by Rachel Cohen
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link: Free Recovery Toolkit: Taking Your Life Back After A Relationship with a Narcissist by Fairy Tale Shadows
Added Article Link: Why Men Abuse Women and Makes Them Stop
Added Resource Link: We Will Speak Out - Faith Communities Uniting to End Sexual Violence
Added Article Link: Grooming for Domestic Abuse: From Romance to Isolation Psychology Today
Added Article/Resource Link: Counseling Victims of Domestic Abuse - by Diane Langberg Ph.D. -- A Cry For Justice
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link: Pedophile Grooming - In Depth by Open Minds Foundation
Added Book Link: On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse by Deepak Reju
Home Page
Added link: Sample Emails to Send to Your Pastor About Sexual Abuse Awareness Month
Added Page & Link: April -- Sexual Abuse Awareness Month (30 links to various articles addressing abuse in the church)
Safe Church Page
Added Article Link - Abusers look for opportunities more than vulnerabilities by Jimmy Hinton
Added Sample Email Page
Added April - Sexual Abuse Awareness Month Page
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Article Link: It's Not Easy to Love a Sexual Abuse Survivor by Boriana Todorova
I Need Help Now Page
Added Resource Link: Workplace Bullying Institute -- Problem Impact Solutions Resources
Caring for the Victim Page
Added Video Link: Sexual Assault: A Trauma Informed Approach to Law Enforcement First Response - YouTube
Abuse Page
Added Article Link: Don't Call It an Affair: The Truth About Clergy Abuse by Rachel Cohen
Added Article Link: Clergy Abuse of Women: A Diminished Capacity to Consent by Rachel Cohen
February 2019
Added Congregation Page & Links
Added Safe Church Page & Links
Mission Page
Added Prayer
Awareness Page
Added Article: How Narcissists Conduct Psychological Warfare: The narcissist's most lethal weapon--and why it creates chemistry with an empath by Erin Leonard
Added Article: Can Malignant Narcissists and Psychopaths Change? Why You Shouldn't Count On It by Shahida Arabi
Response and Investigation Procedures Page
Added Article: Preying in Church: Confronting Sexual Offenders Who Come to Church by Jay Dennis
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Article: Startling Statistics: Child Sexual Abuse and What the Church Can Begin Doing About It by Boz Tchividjian
Features Page
Added Article: What is "Becoming a Church That Cares Well for Abuse" Curriculum by Brad Hambrick
Added Article: An Untried Path to Interrupt Clergy Sex Abuse by Michael Hanegan
Added Article: Cubicles of Charm and Crucibles of Condemnation by Wade Mullen
Added Article: The Problem with "Evil" in Describing Southern Baptist Abuse Crises
Healing Page
Added Article: 3 Things to Remember When Reporting Sexual Abuse by Sheila Wray Gregoire
January 2019
Features Page
Added Article: A Letter to Church Leaders From the spouse of a victim of a covert narcissist abuser pastor
Added Article: I'm Sorry for How the Church Has Sidelined Women by Marc Alan Schelske
Added Article: Why Churches Disbelieve the Victim and Believe the Pastoral Abuser by Mike
Added Article: Together for the Go$pel by Benjamin Sledge
Added Article: Abuse and Christianity: Why the "Christian" Abuser is the Worst Kind by Jeff Crippen
Healing Page
Added Book: Let Us Prey: The Plague of Narcissist Pastors and What We Can Do About It by R. Glenn Ball & Darrell Puls
Added Article Link: What Kind of Woman Does an Abusive Man Go For?
Added Article Link: After Clergy Abuse, Forgiveness Will Just Have to Wait by Rachel Cohen
Added Article Link: The Five Lies that Victims Believe by Mike
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Article Link: What Parents Need to Know About Sexual Grooming by Elizabeth Jeglic Ph.D.
Caring for the Victim Page
Added Article Link: How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths & Psychopaths
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - What I Wish My Pastor Had Known When I Needed Help by Julie Owens
Added Link - Fairy Tale Shadows
December 2018
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link - PTSD and the Church : When Religion is a Trigger by Kristy Burmeister
Added Link - How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths (A Guide for Therapists, Law Enforcement and Loved Ones)
Added Link - PorchSwing Ministries -- Creating Safe Space in your Church or Organization
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link - Lauren's Kids
Features Page
Added Article Link -- A Common and Surprising Ally of Abusers -- Christians Who Grew Up in Church by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link -- 5 Ways You Might Be Enabling Abusers in the Church by Kristy Burmeister
Added Article Link -- When We Neglect the Millstone, We Cast Stones at the Survivor by Mary DeMuth
Added Article Link -- Winter inside the Church and the hope of Christmas by Boz Tchividjian
Added Article Link -- 5 Signs of Spiritual Abuse by Timothy Isaiah Cho
Added Article Link -- Why Do People Believe Narcissists Rather than Their Victims by Shahida Arabi
Added Article Link -- Chicagoland's Pastor Scandals of Power by Scot McKnight
Added Article Link -- Christians: How Not to be Flying Monkeys for Predators by Split Frame/Blog
Healing Page
Added Link - Prayer : A Challenge for Survivors by Fr. Lewis S. Fiorelli, OSFS, Our Lady of Good Counsel Parish, Vienna, VA
Added Link - I'm Going to Repeat This Until it Sinks In by Davina Lytle
Added Link in Forgiveness - The Abuser's Evil Demand for Forgiveness by Jeff Crippen
Prevention Page
Added Article Link: What We Long for the Church to Do about Sexual Violence: Four practical steps churches can take to eliminate sexual violence. by Sally Schwer Canning and Tammy Schultz
Added Video Link: Power, Deception and the Church by Diane Langberg
Added Podcast Link: Boz Tchividjian: A Godly Response to Abuse in the Church Environment
Awareness Page
Added Link -- How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story by Darius Cikanavicius (Psych Central)
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - Malesurvivors.org -- Male survivors of Sexual Abuse
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Sermon Link -- No Abuser is Hidden from His Sight by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link -- A High View of Marriage Includes Divorce by Rebecca VanDoodewaard (ChurchLeaders.com)
Added Link -- Don Hennessy Digest (13-part series on Don's work in area of domestic violence) A Cry for Justice site
Added Link -- Domestic Violence Safety Plan Brochure by Ladywithatruck
November 2018
Features Page
Added Article Link - What Not to Say to Someone Who's Been Hurt by the Church by Jonathan Hollingsworth
Added Article Link - It's Time: How the Church messed up--and can redeem--the #MeToo movement Relevant Magazine
Added Article Link - How to Confront a Toxic Pastor in a Toxic Church by F. Remy Diederich
Added Article Link - "Speak the Truth in Love" has come to mean "Just Keep Quiet About It" by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link - Safety Planning for the Holidays by The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Added Article Link - #ChurchToo: How can we prevent the abuse of women by the clergy? by Lea Karen Kivi
Added Article Link - Abusers become more brazen when they are suspected of abuse by Jimmy Hinton
Healing Page
Added Link - Neuroscience reveals the shocking impact narcissistic abuse has on the brain by Lachlin Brown
Added Section with Links - Resources for Self Care after Trauma
Added Link - Safe Sheep Facebook Page
Added Link - Help! I'm Panicking! Grounding Exercises for Strong Emotions
Added Article Link - Why Do I Attract Abusers by Megan Cox. (Added just above section on Forgiveness)
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - 1in6.org - Sexual Abuse & Sexual Assault for Boys and Men - Confidential Support for Men
Added Link - Help! I'm Panicking! Grounding Exercises for Strong Emotions
Added Link - Grace vs Abuse: 7 Questions to Define the Line
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - Domestic Abuse, Sexual Violence and Substance Use
Added Link - Browse the Web Privately - DIY Cybersecurity for Domestic Violence
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link - Speak Your Light - End Child Sexual Abuse
Awareness Page
Added Link in Resources - The Imbalance and Exploitation of Power - A Recipe for Abuse by Boz Tchividjian
Added Link in Resources - Understanding Sex Abuse: An Interview with Cyndie Randall MA, LLPC by Kristy Bermeister
Added Link in Abuse of Power Section - Sexual Abuse in Christian Organizations by Diane Langberg, PhD
October 2018
Harassment Policies and Reporting Page
Added Link - Registered Sex Offenders: A Church Sample Membership and Attendance Policy by Brad Hambrick
Added Link - Registered Sex Offenders: Failing to Inform is a Coverup by Jimmy Hinton
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - 100 Sermons - Sojourners
Added Article Link - How Pastors Perceive Domestic Violence Differently by Bob Smietana/Christianity Today
Features Page
Added Article Link - Growing Trust by Heidi De Jonge
Added Article Link - What is Your Role as a Christian in the #METOO Movement? by Trillia Newbell
Added Article Link - Be Wise About Repentant Predators by Mary DeMuth
Added Article Link - How Abuse Affects the Soul, Identity and Dignity by Megan Cox
Healing Page
Added Book - Broken Trust by F. Remy Diederich
Added Link - The Psychology of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder TED Ed
Added Book - The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
Added Link in Forgiveness Area - Some More Thoughts on Wrong Thinking About Forgiveness by Jeff Crippen
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Article - 21 Sentences NOT to Say to a Sexual Abuse Survivor by Mary E. DeMuth
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Link - Darkness to Light - Trust Your Gut
Caring for the Victim Page
Added Link - How to Support Someone Who Has Experienced Trauma
September 2018
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - Non-Disparagement Agreements and Truth-Telling in the Church by Scot McKnight
Awareness Page
Added Link in Resources - Understanding Sexual Abuse by a Church Leader or Caregiver
Added Article Link in Resources - There are Many False Sheep and Shepherds and We Need to Say So by Jeff Crippen
Added Article Link in Resources - The Sin of Silence - The Epidemic Denial About Sexual Abuse in the Evangelical Church by Joshua Pease
Domestic Violence Resource Page
Added Link - Quick Guide : What is Domestic Violence
Added Link - Abuse and Relationships Website by Michael Samsel LMHC
Added Link - Dear Church, It's Time to Stop Enabling Abusive Men by Gary Thomas
Education & Training Page
Added Link - Keeping Our Sacred Trust Online Courses Addressing Ethical Boundaries in Ministry
Prevention Page
Added Link - 9 Anti-Abuse Practices Your Church Needs to Adopt by Becky Castle Miller
Added Link - The Shame of Sexual Harassment in the Church - How it Happens - How We Can Heal by Alex Newman
Added Link - The #MeToo Movement Has Educated Pastors. And Left Them With More Questions by Bob Smietana
Prevention Resources Page
Added Website Link - UM Sexual Ethics Website (A Model Denomination Website addressing Sexual Misconduct)
Added Section - What About Church Membership Covenants/Contract?
Added Link - Five Reasons to Say "No" to a Church Covenant by Wade Burleson
Added Link - Five Reasons to Say No to a Church Membership Covenant - Apologetics Index
Added Link - Q. Are Church Covenants and Membership Policies Biblical?
Added Link - The Dirty Little Secret About Church Membership Covenants
Added Link - Church Membership Covenants - Legal Contracts that are NOT Biblical!
Added Link - Further Proof You are Signing a Legal Contract Not a Membership Covenant: Courtesy of the Gospel Coalition
Policies & Reporting Page
Added Link - Here's What You Need to Know About Reporting Abuse by Bob Ditmer (Video by Brad Hambrick)
Caring for Survivors in Your Church Page
Added Link - A Church Addresses Sexual Abuse (A Sunday Service devoted to the Abused)
Healing Page
Added Article Link - An Open Letter to Sexual Assault Survivors by Kristy Burmeister
Added Video Series Link - Hope and Restoration After Abuse by Brad Hambrick & The Summit Church
Added to the list of songs: Resurrection Power by Chris Tomlin; In Over My Head by Jenn Johnson; No Matter What by Matt Maher/
Bart Millard; The Breakup Song by Francesca Battistelli; Confidence by Sanctus Real; Counting Every Blessing by Rend Collective; Broken Things by Matthew West; Known by Tauren Wells
Features Page
Added Article - To Prevent Abuse and Coverups, the Church Needs to Empower Laypeople by Sean Rowe
Added Article - Manipulative Repentance: 8 Red Flag Phrases by Brad Hambrick
Added Article - How Willow Creek Exposed Our Sins by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin
Added Link - The Praxis Gathering
Added Article - Out in the Light: Why Expose the Church's Most Shameful Sins? by Sophia Lee
Added Article - Confronting the Toxic Power in Me by Jamin Groggin and Kyle Strobel
Added Article - How Many Pastors are Addicted to Porn? The Stats are Surprising by Bo Lane
Added Article - What Do Waterless Clouds Look Like by Jeff Crippen
Added Article - Abuse: Would Your Church Cover It Up? Three Questions That Can Help You Anticipate Your Church's Response to Sexual Abuse by Ashley Easter
Added Article - More on #Churchtoo : Q & A with Jimmy Hinton on Sexual Abuse in Churches by Bobby Ross Jr.
Child Safety Resource Page
Added Video - 20.5 % of Your Congregation are Sexual Abuse Survivors by Grace
Added Link - How to Protect Our Special Needs Kids From Sexual Abuse (RiseandShineMovement.org)
August 2018
Awareness Page
Added Link In Additional Resources - How to Spot a Narcissist in 3 Steps
Added Link In "Abusers Should Be Held Accountable" Section - Grace (and the abuse of grace) for narcissists and abusers by Chuck DeGroat
Added Link in Additional Resources - Light For Dark Times by Jeff Crippen
Added Link in Additional Resources - 6 Warning Signs of a Bad Pastor and Spiritual Abuse
Caring for Survivors In Your Church Page
Added Link - Five Mistakes to Avoid When Counseling Abuse Survivors by Diane Langberg
Added Text & Link - The Impact of Sexual Trauma on Survivors' Theological Perception and Spiritual Formation
Added Text & Link - This is How Churches Should Respond to Abuse by Scott Savage
Response and Investigation Resources Page
Added Article Link - Are Abuse Survivors Best Served When Institutions Investigate Themselves by Boz Tchividjian
Added Article Link - Take it from someone who reported abuse in the church: Get outside help by Jimmy Hinton
Added Article Link - Matthew 18, Civil Law, and Limits on Church Discipline by Marty Duren
Added Article Link - Should Churches Handle Sexual Abuse Allegations Internally? by Jen Zamzow
Features Page
Added Article - Rachel Held Evans interviews Boz Tchividjian of G.R.A.C.E.
Added Article - Our "Sin of the Bystander" Enables Sexual Abuse. We Must Change by Kathryn Manis Findley
Added Article - Bill Hybels and the Future of the Church After #ChurchToo by Chuck DeGroat
Added Article - Evangelicals confront sex abuse problems in #metoo era by David Crary
Added Article - Samson and Delilah: Strength After Betrayal by Lea Karen Kivi
Added Article - Three Ways Catholics Can Fight Sexual Abuse in the Church by David Clohessy
Added Scripture Article - Prophecy Against the Shepherds of Israel (Ezekiel 34)
Added Article - Max Lucado: Priests, pastors and pain; three words that shouldn’t share the same sentence.
Added Article - Encourage Your Anger by Paul David Tripp
Added Article - Divisions, Deception and Disease by Diane Langberg
Domestic Violence Resources Page
Added book - Suffering and the Heart of God by Diane Langberg
Added book - Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists and Other Sex Offenders by Anna Salter
Added Article Link - Message to a Church: You Preached Death to the Hearts of One Hundred Women Today
Added Article Link - Faith Communities Must Do Better When Survivors Speak Out by Rev. Amy Gopp
Added Website Link - Light for Dark Times by Pastor Jeff Crippen
Added Sermon Series Link - Domestic Violence and Abuse--The Psychology and Methods of Sin by Pastor Jeff Crippen
Prevention Page
Added Article Link - Dear Church: Hear the Word of the Lord by Diane Langberg
Added Link in introduction area - When It Comes to Abuse, the Church Needs a Paradigm Shift by Annette Oltmans
Added Link in introduction area - Abuse Claims Again the Top Reasons Churches go to Court by Richard R. Hammar, Church Law & Tax
Added Link in introduction area - Covering Up the Evils of the Wicked is Forbidden by the Lord by Jeff Crippen
I Need Help Now Page
Added Link - Domestic Violence Hotline
Added Link - Reporting Child Abuse
Added Link - The American Association of Christian Counselors
Added Link - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Addiction Hotline
Child Abuse Resources Page
Added Link - Darkness to Light : End Child Sexual Abuse
Healing Page
Added Link - Interview: Morgan Lee interviews Rachel Dendhollander - My Larry Nassar Testimony Went Viral, But There's More to the Gospel Than Forgiveness
Added Link - ANONYMOUS: From Someone Injured by the Church
July 2018
Awareness Page
In Additional Resources - Dear Church: Stop Trying to Convert Wolves by Jimmy Hinton
Features Page
Added Article - If a child in your life tells you that they are being sexually abused, would you know what to do? by Laura Fogerty
Added Article - 7 Ways Congregations Can Respond to the #MeToo Movement by General Commission on the Status & Role of Women
Added Article - Tamar Listens to Psalm 61: A Reflection on the Impact of Misused Spiritual Authority by Brad Hambrick
Added Article - Church Related Trauma: When Church Can Trigger by Kyle J. Howard
Child Safety Resources Page
Added Link - If a child in your life tells you that they are being sexually abused, would you know what to do? by Laura Fogerty
Added Video - A Great Example of Acting on Instinct at Church (Sarah McDugal video)
Added Video - Here are 5 red flags + 9 intimidation tactics used today by a predator visiting my church.
Added Link - Sarah McDugal Facebook Page
Added Link - Identifying Child Sexual Abuse
Added Link - A Letter From a Parent
Domestic Violence Resources Page
Added Link - How to Develop a Safety Plan for Domestic Violence
Added Book - Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
Added Book - The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evens
Added Video - What Happens When Women Say "I'm Scared" but Nobody Listens by Sarah McDugal
Added Link - National Network to End Domestic Violence
Added Link - Technology Safety
Healing Page
Added book recommendation - Think Differently Live Differently by Bob Hamp
Added book recommendation - When Godly People Do Ungodly Things by Beth Moore
Added link on Forgiveness - Emotions and Forgiveness: Instructions for a Confusing Intersection
Added book recommendation - On the Threshold of Hope by Diane Mandt Langberg, PH.D.
Added YouTube Video - You Say by Lauren Daigle
Added Caring for Survivors In Your Church Page